The title pretty much sums it up; these are the random musings of a free-spirited, modified, Gemini cub guy.
The Ramblings of an ADHD Gemini
dont talk to me about trans issues if



  • transgendered/cisgendered
  • asterisk****
  • "biologically ___" 
  • cisphobia
  • "they isn’t grammatically correct" 
  • "comfortable in your body/gender"

since this got a lot of notes and i received a few asks about what some of these meant, here’s the follow up with explanations on why i cannot stand any of the shit above 

  • transgendered/cisgendered: to be trans or cis is not a past action. it is not a VERB. the -ed at the end is unnecessary and wrong and when you use it shows that you probably aren’t invested enough in these issues to actually know what you’re talking about
  • the asterisk is harmful and transmisogynistic and here’s why 
  • there is no such thing as “biologically female” and “biologically male” and they are just terms coated with cissexism and invalidation here’s another great post about it 
  • cisphobia doesn’t fucking exist. period. 
  • they/them pronouns are grammatically correct and have been for centuries. refusing to use them on the basis of your precious grammar is flat out transphobic. and that applies to basically all other pronouns too. denying someone’s right to have their correct pronouns used is an act of transphobia. 
  • "comfortable in your body/gender" is NOT the definition for being cis. trans people like their genders. we can be comfortable in our bodies. implying that we can’t like our gender or our body just further perpetrates the notion that to be trans, you must be miserable and hate yourself and wallow in self pity, and that just isn’t true and is a harmful expectation to give us. if you need to define cis, all it is is when your gender matches up with your assigned sex. no happiness involved. 

(Source: neoharuka)

My third grade teacher called my mother and said, ‘Ms. Cox, your son is going to end up in New Orleans in a dress if we don’t get him into therapy.’ And wouldn’t you know, just last week I spoke at Tulane University, and I wore a LOVELY green and black dress.
-Laverne Cox, speaking at the University of Kentucky (via lgbtlaughs)

(Source: so-nyeo-shi-daze)

a cool thing please read


so i have a $100 amazon giftcard (unused obviously) and i know theres people who could use it more than i can so im going to give it away. please, only trans people because if im going to be giving away something of this value i want it to go to a cause i know is good. if youre dfab, please only enter if you really need it because dmab trans/nonbinary people especially trans girls commonly have a harder time as well as a greater need to be buying stuff for their transition and/or comfort. 

to enter, just reblog and add “for me” in the tags, please. 

ill chose the winner randomly in two days (this was posted on march 10th) and ill message whoever it is with the claim code. 

if youre cis or just not entering, feel free to reblog this too to let your trans followers know!! :)


my main problem with allowing transwomen in feminist spaces is that…”




unless you’re into

what did nicki do?

from Anonymous




#rape #transphobia idk where this came from but hgHGHGGHGHGHGHGHGH and the entire tag is very very sparse “WOW, NICKI”s between a bunch of YASSSSS and gifsets of her flipping her hair and idk. just. not cute



you were supposed to be perfect, Nicki

A Step By Step Guide through Jared Leto’s Trans Ignorance.


Jared Leto has been winning multiple awards for playing the transgender character of Rayon in the film “Dallas Buyers Club.” The transgender community has then watched him throw them under the bus.

1. LETO"It was the role of a lifetime," he said. "It was an incredible thing to represent this group of people who largely are ignored." 

Ignored. Leto ignored criticism from the trans community and allies who don’t want him representing this group of people in the way he has been. "wouldn’t it have been better if the starring role had gone to an actual trans person" - La Times.  Despite complaints and Leto having one of the most powerful publicists in Hollywood, Leto claimed in December that he had never heard criticisms that trans roles should go to trans actors. When asked what research he did for the role he said “a lot” but he did not formally engage, pay, or study under any trans people.

Transgender roles should go to transgender actors and if that is not possible (for whatever reason) productions should hire transgender consultants to “get it right” instead of perpetuating negative stereotypes. 

Jared ignores this: 

2. LETO"you wouldn’t want to stick a transgender person with only transgender roles, so it goes both ways." 

Transgender people DO NOT GET cisgender roles. It does not go both ways due to systemic oppression. Cisgender people take transgender roles then do what Leto is doing instead of the advocating and “possibility modeling” of Laverne Cox in “Orange is the New Black.” She represents trans people beyond the screen role in the media in positive ways never experienced before. This creates “teachable moments” as Katie Couric put it after her problematic questioning.  When a cis person takes a trans role, trans stories are exploitation, not representation. 

Meanwhile, Trans Hollywood’s experience is that trans people are often told they do not have enough experience for key roles. It’s a systemic problem, cis people take trans roles, trans actors are left with nothing. 

3.  "I thought I’d look pretty good in a skirt." 

No Jared, the character of Rayon is fictional in this film “based on a true story.” She was ahistorically written in order to be the “most gay” and visually problematic for Matthew McConaughey’s character Ron Woodroof. You removed your eyebrows (?) and played her with intense makeup, hair, and clothing to make Ron uncomfortable and a very unlikely ally.


You weren’t there to look good, you were there to look bad. You are perpetuating the “man in a dress” stereotype of transgender women. 


What if the role had gone to these transgender women?  Would the theater laughed as hard at Ron ripping down Rayon’s photo while masturbating? How would the supermarket scene have played out if Ron was just seen walking around with a beautiful woman vs. a straight cis male playing….what…..

4.LETO: ”This wonderful creature who was unfortunately addicted to drugs and dying of AIDS and fighting for her life.” and “beautiful creature….”

While you’ve made it clear in interviews that Rayon was living life as a woman and wanted trans related medial care but you don’t talk about playing a woman or trans woman. You talk about playing a “creature.” USE THE WORDS “TRANSGENDER WOMAN.” Again, how do you feel you are representing “this group of people” if you never use the terminology? If you call one of us a creature. We don’t want you up there Jared if you are just going to be a bro about it. 

5. LETO: ”It’s wild, even putting on lipstick is a very shocking thing, [and] putting on heels is a very shocking thing, putting on tights is a shocking thing” “. One of the things I did was wax my entire body including my eyebrows,’ 'I'm just fortunate that it wasn't a period piece so I didn't have to do a full Brazilian [wax].  'Ladies, you know what I'm talking about though…and so do some of you men, I think.'

All superficial gendering. People are not giving the award to rockstar Jared Leto who talks about how weird it is to do things femme cis women and femme trans women do every day. They gave it to what seemed like a serious actor in a demanding role. Jared did not use the role as a learning moment to be forever changed by trans struggle. Instead he jokes about it like a cis man does, it’s trans misogyny. When asked about leaving the role behind….

6. LETO “I tucked those balls firmly away… I’m still coughing them out.”

Come on, is he our drunk uncle making fun of us? And on criticism for his Golden Globe’s speech…

7. LETO “obviously I didn’t prepare a speech.” 

But he did! He gave nearly the identical speech at the Hollywood Film Awards. 

Hollywood Film Awards Speech:

Golden Globes Speech:

This led to proper criticism over the transphobia and exploitation: 

Jared Leto and Michael Douglas’ Homophobic Acceptance Speeches

The Golden Globes gave Jared Leto an award for playing a trans woman because Hollywood is terrible. 

C’mon Hollywood

So is anything changing? YES!. Leto’s SAG AWARD Speech dispensed with the cheap jokes and had some class, dedicating the award to the groups he borrowed emotional equity from instead of being about himself, his waxing, and his return to film after six years, and the great parties: 

8. LETO: " I’d like to share it with the Rayons of the world. To the people who have made a choice to live their lives … as they have chosen to dream it. I’m so proud that i’ve been able to glimpse the world through your eyes." 

There is learning happening but it seems more as a response to backlash than actual learning or community. What is next? We do not identify as “Rayons.” Say the word “TRANSGENDER.” We appreciate the attempt at recognizing a marginalized group but Leto is avoiding our self identity, making up his own point of view on what we are and should be called. We are organizing so this learning curve never happens again. We need trans actors in trans roles for visibility, representation, and positive models instead of wanting to vomit listening to a cis man make fun of us. We don’t want to be writing Tumblr posts and articles defending ourself from a person who thinks they are representing us. While in this period of civil rights, we want to see ourselves truly represented and moving forward.


pros of dating within the queer community: I never have to explain my transness

cons: chances that someone will poorly dye their hair bleach blonde and/or teal goes up by like 1000% percent

› Maine Supreme Court rules in favor of transgender girl in Orono school bathroom case


misgendering a cis person is still transphobic

you’re still perpetuating the idea that if you don’t fit certain criteria, you can’t be a certain gender

guess who gets hurt by that

(hint the answer starts with “everyone” and ends with “but mostly dmab trans people”)

Notte Themes   ☾