christinabaker
fuckyeahftms:

This boy is my everything. We’ve been together for almost 5 years. A year into our relationship though, he came out as trans and began his personal journey of transitioning. He has been medically transitioning for almost 3 years. 

His birthday is coming up on August 30th. This year I wanted to do something super special for him for his birthday. We’ve been engaged for 3 years and are waiting until he’s had top surgery before we set a wedding date. Most people ask why we’ve been engaged for so long and don’t understand why, but it really isn’t that complicated; everyone deserves to feel like a million bucks at their wedding. As cheesy as it sounds, I want him to feel like a million bucks every day of his life. He’s priceless to me, with or without top surgery. Surgery does not define his worth or value to me, but it does to him. And I feel like self worth is something personal that can’t be dictated by others, especially regarding trans people. I’m in no position to tell him that he should just love himself the way he is, and I never would. But I have every right to love him just the way he is, even if his dysphoria is right there butting heads with me.

I’m reaching out to the trans community on tumblr, allies and anyone else willing to help make this birthday his best birthday ever. I’ve created a secret gofundme account to raise money for the top surgery he thinks he will never be able to afford. I can’t think of a better way to wish him a happy birthday than by completely crushing the idea that’s been weighing him down for 3 long years and proving to him that his top surgery is totally possible. I want this to happen for him so bad and appreciate any donation no matter how small. Every dollar counts and every dollar is greatly appreciated. Don’t ever think that any act of generosity, no matter how “small”, is not enough. Kindness is so much more valuable than most people realize. 

You can read more about it here:http://www.gofundme.com/topsecrettopsurgery

fuckyeahftms:

This boy is my everything. We’ve been together for almost 5 years. A year into our relationship though, he came out as trans and began his personal journey of transitioning. He has been medically transitioning for almost 3 years.

His birthday is coming up on August 30th. This year I wanted to do something super special for him for his birthday. We’ve been engaged for 3 years and are waiting until he’s had top surgery before we set a wedding date. Most people ask why we’ve been engaged for so long and don’t understand why, but it really isn’t that complicated; everyone deserves to feel like a million bucks at their wedding. As cheesy as it sounds, I want him to feel like a million bucks every day of his life. He’s priceless to me, with or without top surgery. Surgery does not define his worth or value to me, but it does to him. And I feel like self worth is something personal that can’t be dictated by others, especially regarding trans people. I’m in no position to tell him that he should just love himself the way he is, and I never would. But I have every right to love him just the way he is, even if his dysphoria is right there butting heads with me.

I’m reaching out to the trans community on tumblr, allies and anyone else willing to help make this birthday his best birthday ever. I’ve created a secret gofundme account to raise money for the top surgery he thinks he will never be able to afford. I can’t think of a better way to wish him a happy birthday than by completely crushing the idea that’s been weighing him down for 3 long years and proving to him that his top surgery is totally possible. I want this to happen for him so bad and appreciate any donation no matter how small. Every dollar counts and every dollar is greatly appreciated. Don’t ever think that any act of generosity, no matter how “small”, is not enough. Kindness is so much more valuable than most people realize.

You can read more about it here:
http://www.gofundme.com/topsecrettopsurgery

raiona

thewomanfromitaly:

gaywrites:

Supermodel Andreja Pejic, known in the fashion industry for her stunning and often androgynous modeling of both men’s and women’s clothing, has come out as a transgender woman.

Pejic says she will only model women’s clothing from now on, and reportedly has the full support of her friends, family and agency.

Pejic said in a statement, “To all trans youth out there, I would like to say respect yourself and be proud of who you are. All human beings deserve equal treatment no matter their gender identity or sexuality. To be perceived as what you say you are is a basic human right.”

She also told Style.com, “I figured out who I was very early on—actually, at the age of 13, with the help of the Internet—so I knew that a transition, becoming a woman, was always something I needed to do. But it wasn’t possible at the time, and I put it off, and androgyny became a way of expressing my femininity without having to explain myself to people too much.”

Amazing! Congrats to her! 

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH THIS IS BIG AND IMPORTANT AND I AM SO HAPPY

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triptone:

Last night my little sister (5th grade) was making an e-mail account

She saw gender and went to click female when she noticed the “other” choice

She looked at me confused and I started to explain that some people don’t think they fit in with strictly male or female

"Oh! You mean like transgender and stuff like that. I was freaked out for a second- I thought they meant robots."

Yet another example the kids are more open-minded than adults

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lgbtlaughs:

lgbtqblogs:

Mother delivers moving speech defending trans daughter

Debi Jackson, who is the mother of 6-year-old trans girl AJ, was speaking at the Unity Temple on the Plaza in Kansas City.

Contains: Some humour (hence the reblog here), discussion of genitals, therapy, and concepts of dyphoria and transphobia by a third party. The speaker uses correct pronouns (she/her/hers) throughout, even when referring to the time when she didn’t understand what being transgender meant/when she thought her daughter was a boy.

This mother being a conservative Republican Southern Baptist gives me so much hope for my mom, especially after our “discussions” this past week, who is all of those things, except a Tennessean.  

talysia
lipstick-feminists:

jaycenmarcus:

jaycenmarcus:

lipstick-feminists:

tw: transphobia
Breaking: Trans Student Denied On-Campus Housing at George Fox University

An African-American transgender student–who’ll be a junior at George Fox University next year–has been denied on-campus housing at the Oregon college. Jayce M., from Portland, Ore., has medically and socially transitioned and has started his legal transition. Jayce’s attorney, Portlander Paul Southwick, filed a Title IX discrimination complaint with the U.S. Department of Education Friday morning.
In a letter obtained by PQ Monthly, Mark Pothoff, Dean of Community Life, who partnered with Brad Lau, Vice-President for Student Life, along with four members of the Board of Trustees before making the decision, outlined the institution’s denial–and their rationale. The school is in the process of adding to their housing policy that they will house students by his/her biological birth sex–which, according to college officials, needs more time to be developed, and to “coincide with a theological and philosophical statement.” 
….
In lieu of on-campus housing, college officials offered “conditional” approval for Jayce–to live off-campus with male students for the 2014-15 school year. The conditional approval, according to the letter from college officials, is a “one-year exception”–and subject to change at any time. In order to receive “full approval” to live off-campus with male students, Jayce must meet a variety of requirements before June 1–including legally changing his name and gender for the following items: his driver’s license, his social security card, and his birth certificate. (The demand about his birth certificate was later rescinded.)
Additionally, school officials–at first–insisted they “must meet with” all of Jayce’s potential roommates in order to “affirm they understand his story, are willing to live with him,” and that his roommates “have informed their parents about this living arrangement.”
Pothoff did present another option: “If you desire to only live on-campus, we may be able to provide a single room for you, although we agreed this was not a good option (though we would certainly do our best to connect you with the larger community if you were in a single room).”
“I recognize this decision may be controversial to some people in our community,” Pothoff writes. “However, I think you’ve provided good rationale that caused us to reconsider the initial decision. […] Jayce, I’m glad you’re at Fox and I want to continue to see you be successful here.”
…
George Fox, who on Thursday denied Jayce’s last appeal on the matter, refused to meet with Southwick and Jayce to resolve his housing situation informally. Despite pleas from Jayce and his mother–including a direct appeal to the President–the university continued to deny Jayce’s request for on-campus housing. The school did, eventually–and after meetings with Jayce and his mother–remove the off-campus requirement that Jayce’s friends inform their parents that they are living with a transgender student, since that would have been a violation of Jayce’s privacy rights, and that he change the sex listed on his birth certificate, according to Southwick. (He was born in Tennessee, which remains one of the few states that makes it impossible for transgender people to change their sex on their birth certificate.)
…
In a bright spot, Jayce’s mother–who’s been incredibly supportive–has started an online petition at change.org. “I am speaking out for my African-American, transgender son, Jayce,” she writes. “Jayce wants to live with his male friends in on-campus housing next year, but George Fox University refused to allow it because Jayce is transgender.” You can find her petition here.

Sign the petition here.

Please share!

PLEASE POST, REBLOG, SHARE!!!! I am a trams student fighting for my rights. The more ppl that show support and sign the more likely we will be able to reverse this decision. Thanks!!!

Jayce, we support you in your fight 100%. Everyone needs to sign, like, and reblog
<3 <3 <3 <3

lipstick-feminists:

jaycenmarcus:

jaycenmarcus:

lipstick-feminists:

tw: transphobia

Breaking: Trans Student Denied On-Campus Housing at George Fox University

An African-American transgender student–who’ll be a junior at George Fox University next year–has been denied on-campus housing at the Oregon college. Jayce M., from Portland, Ore., has medically and socially transitioned and has started his legal transition. Jayce’s attorney, Portlander Paul Southwick, filed a Title IX discrimination complaint with the U.S. Department of Education Friday morning.

In a letter obtained by PQ Monthly, Mark Pothoff, Dean of Community Life, who partnered with Brad Lau, Vice-President for Student Life, along with four members of the Board of Trustees before making the decision, outlined the institution’s denial–and their rationale. The school is in the process of adding to their housing policy that they will house students by his/her biological birth sex–which, according to college officials, needs more time to be developed, and to “coincide with a theological and philosophical statement.” 

….

In lieu of on-campus housing, college officials offered “conditional” approval for Jayce–to live off-campus with male students for the 2014-15 school year. The conditional approval, according to the letter from college officials, is a “one-year exception”–and subject to change at any time. In order to receive “full approval” to live off-campus with male students, Jayce must meet a variety of requirements before June 1–including legally changing his name and gender for the following items: his driver’s license, his social security card, and his birth certificate. (The demand about his birth certificate was later rescinded.)

Additionally, school officials–at first–insisted they “must meet with” all of Jayce’s potential roommates in order to “affirm they understand his story, are willing to live with him,” and that his roommates “have informed their parents about this living arrangement.”

Pothoff did present another option: “If you desire to only live on-campus, we may be able to provide a single room for you, although we agreed this was not a good option (though we would certainly do our best to connect you with the larger community if you were in a single room).”

“I recognize this decision may be controversial to some people in our community,” Pothoff writes. “However, I think you’ve provided good rationale that caused us to reconsider the initial decision. […] Jayce, I’m glad you’re at Fox and I want to continue to see you be successful here.”

George Fox, who on Thursday denied Jayce’s last appeal on the matter, refused to meet with Southwick and Jayce to resolve his housing situation informally. Despite pleas from Jayce and his mother–including a direct appeal to the President–the university continued to deny Jayce’s request for on-campus housing. The school did, eventually–and after meetings with Jayce and his mother–remove the off-campus requirement that Jayce’s friends inform their parents that they are living with a transgender student, since that would have been a violation of Jayce’s privacy rights, and that he change the sex listed on his birth certificate, according to Southwick. (He was born in Tennessee, which remains one of the few states that makes it impossible for transgender people to change their sex on their birth certificate.)

In a bright spot, Jayce’s mother–who’s been incredibly supportive–has started an online petition at change.org. “I am speaking out for my African-American, transgender son, Jayce,” she writes. “Jayce wants to live with his male friends in on-campus housing next year, but George Fox University refused to allow it because Jayce is transgender.” You can find her petition here.

Sign the petition here.

Please share!

PLEASE POST, REBLOG, SHARE!!!! I am a trams student fighting for my rights. The more ppl that show support and sign the more likely we will be able to reverse this decision. Thanks!!!

Jayce, we support you in your fight 100%. Everyone needs to sign, like, and reblog

<3 <3 <3 <3

owning-my-truth

dont talk to me about trans issues if

cishetofficial:

cishetofficial:

  • transgendered/cisgendered
  • asterisk****
  • "biologically ___" 
  • cisphobia
  • "they isn’t grammatically correct" 
  • "comfortable in your body/gender"

since this got a lot of notes and i received a few asks about what some of these meant, here’s the follow up with explanations on why i cannot stand any of the shit above 

  • transgendered/cisgendered: to be trans or cis is not a past action. it is not a VERB. the -ed at the end is unnecessary and wrong and when you use it shows that you probably aren’t invested enough in these issues to actually know what you’re talking about
  • the asterisk is harmful and transmisogynistic and here’s why 
  • there is no such thing as “biologically female” and “biologically male” and they are just terms coated with cissexism and invalidation here’s another great post about it 
  • cisphobia doesn’t fucking exist. period. 
  • they/them pronouns are grammatically correct and have been for centuries. refusing to use them on the basis of your precious grammar is flat out transphobic. and that applies to basically all other pronouns too. denying someone’s right to have their correct pronouns used is an act of transphobia. 
  • "comfortable in your body/gender" is NOT the definition for being cis. trans people like their genders. we can be comfortable in our bodies. implying that we can’t like our gender or our body just further perpetrates the notion that to be trans, you must be miserable and hate yourself and wallow in self pity, and that just isn’t true and is a harmful expectation to give us. if you need to define cis, all it is is when your gender matches up with your assigned sex. no happiness involved. 
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My third grade teacher called my mother and said, ‘Ms. Cox, your son is going to end up in New Orleans in a dress if we don’t get him into therapy.’ And wouldn’t you know, just last week I spoke at Tulane University, and I wore a LOVELY green and black dress.
Laverne Cox, speaking at the University of Kentucky (via lgbtlaughs)
talysia

a cool thing please read

transpotter:

so i have a $100 amazon giftcard (unused obviously) and i know theres people who could use it more than i can so im going to give it away. please, only trans people because if im going to be giving away something of this value i want it to go to a cause i know is good. if youre dfab, please only enter if you really need it because dmab trans/nonbinary people especially trans girls commonly have a harder time as well as a greater need to be buying stuff for their transition and/or comfort. 

to enter, just reblog and add “for me” in the tags, please. 

ill chose the winner randomly in two days (this was posted on march 10th) and ill message whoever it is with the claim code. 

if youre cis or just not entering, feel free to reblog this too to let your trans followers know!! :)